How to Communicate Better When Dating

Relationships can be fun, but some people either don’t know that or just don’t care. I was watching a movie the other night and the friendships in the movie, on the surface, bordered on psychotic. The women were angry and argued with each other throughout the movie, and none of the men had a spine. It got me to thinking, does life imitate art or is art imitating life.

Reality shows are really huge right now and one thing they all seem to have in common is no one communicates at all. There does not appear to be a lot of reality shows that show healthy relationships, actually I don’t think there are a lot of scripted shows that depict healthy friendships either. Nonetheless it appears that everyone is getting their relationship advice from TV.

Couple in love holding handsWhat that tells us is, couples are not learning to communicate, and most don’t think they need to. If you even want to think about using online dating sites, you HAVE TO LEARN TO COMMUNICATE!

We have heard it over and over, no communication in a friendship equals no relationship, the two go together like peanut butter and jelly, milk and cookies and Ozzy and Harriet. One without the other absolutely does not work, and there is no way around it.

In the movie I spoke of earlier, once the couples sat down and talked about love (and when I say talk, I mean one person speaks and the other one listens, not as you are speaking I’m thinking of my reply) and heard the other person. They found the root to their anger and were able to heal their relationship.

I’m not saying that every situation ends well, we know that fairytales are not real, however when you allow yourself to hear someone, you open up many possibilities. All anyone in a relationship wants is to feel worthy and acknowledged and don’t you owe that to the one you love?

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